Forgiveness and Conflict

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Forgiveness,

Forgiveness and conflict go hand in hand in church life. Forgiveness is something easy to be said but hard to be done when it comes to relationship. All relationship go through conflict which sometimes stretches that relationship.Conflict also can often cause emotional hurt which resides deep beneath the emotional feeling that one could experience in their daily life.

Just the other day I was asked to attend a meeting in the evening to specifically deal with
conflict with two of my friends. All though during the past months I have tried my best to resolve the conflict but was not successful since one party was not willing to be open and understandable. But during the period of time, that relationship grew colder which in turn gave growth to bitterness. Somehow I was caught in the middle of this conflict between two of my friends.

Often times I felt frustrated because I could see that situation was not getting better because the
conflict was not resolved in the beginning itself. However there came a call for both parties from a respectable person to end this conflict issue as soon as possible and they both agreed.
During that meeting one evening, each shared their part of story of what really happened. Surprising enough both parties discovered that it was just a miss communication error, that one party interpreted wrongly the message that was communicated. But because of the misinterpretation of the words that was communicated a period of time lead growth to conflict without a purposeful intention.


Two parties offered their apologies to each other and reconciled their relationship through the love of Jesus Christ. Forgiveness and reconciliation is no strange word in the Bible itself. Just as we were forgiven by God we need to forgive others although it may take a journey or two to forgive, but try to take that journey to forgive because you will feel that huge weight being lifted of you.

The more you carry unforgiveness, the more you are weighed down by the feeling of hurt and pain which God never intended for man in the first place. Well, I don't want to live the rest of my life with pain and anger towards somebody else ! we are only going to live one time so let us make it right.However since we are fallen in our nature, our very words that we speak could often hurt certain people without us noticing it.

On the other hand, some might interpret wrongly and use it against us.often this could be seen in the church !But no relationship and conflict is hard for God to restore, as long as we are open to God and others, you can count that you relationship is on the way for restoration. It may take time but trust God to heal that pain and hurt, God is a healer!

1 John 4:9,

Where is God ?

Where is God when I need Him? is the question that never fails to come in our mind as we face challenging situations and tough circumstances. But does not God say in His word " I will never leave you nor forsake you "? But why do we not feel that God is close with us sometimes ?


Is it wrong to say that I don't feel like God is with me at this point of time? Yesterday I felt like that, when I was going through an incident. But as I went back home last night, I came across a scripture which I identified very well in Matthew 27:45-46 "My God,My God why have you forsake me" ? Jesus crying out to God.

Jesus also went through a time where He could not feel God's presence, why did Jesus go through those time ? He wanted to identify with us! I believe in a God who fully identifies with me as a human ! He went through pain and suffering and knows what tears is !

I know one thing, even tough sometimes I don't feel like God is close with me, but I know that Jesus knows how it feels like and I get comforted by that. Maybe I don't feel God's presence but I know a person whose gone through that situation before me and He is going to help me. (Jesus)

Sometimes our emotions gets in the way of knowing God's presence, because we are angry or filled with worries or fear. But when the emotions calm down and when we place our selves in a place of stillness, that's where we could see God standing beside us and carrying us through those fears,worries and doubts.

I may not literally see it but once I look back when I am out of the valley, it all makes sense ! God's hand upon our live even when don t feel God's presence sometimes.

The above song talks about "Dirty Little Secrets", yes we all have them. Those deep dark secrets that nobody else knows but you alone, stored in your heart. I wonder how those secrets effect our daily life . Sometimes we share our secrets to our friends, just in order to get some relief out of the guilt that we will be experiencing by having a secret, perhaps some bad thing that we have done, an emotional hurt in the person of even a certain incident.



Not to say guilt only a factor, but there might be other facts involved in it, such as no body to talk to or to share our feelings with. On the other hand, sometimes people that are close to you (family) might not be able to fully understand what you are feeling and going through, which brings us to the conclusion of "what good will it do for me by sharing my fear or the secret with that person"?

On the other hand, friends are not good in keeping secrets either,they share that secret to somebody else and that secret is no longer a secret any more and as a result of that you get hurt. Not surprising to say that your secret will follow everywhere you go because you are carrying it.




But If I bring God in to the picture, God already knows your secret in a way. So whats the point of hiding that secret from God by not talking to Him with that issue. God is able to deal with that secret no matter how big or small. Ultimately God never breaks our trust and the confidentiality with it.

We need to deal with the secrets that we have in our heart, and the only person and the way is Jesus Christ who is able to help you with your secrets. How ? by having a normal conversation with God just as you would with a friend.

When I say to God, "I cant do this anymore", God says "yes you can" ! but how I ask ? He says " I will carry you". Well, this video shows the father heart of God towards each one of us. Always remember that God is with you and and He is looking after you when things get tough. He will help you to finish what seems to be impossible !

God Bless, have a great day!

Belief and Doubt

There are times when we feel close to God and there are times when we feel far away from God.We all go through those period of times in our life. During those times, our mind gets filled with doubts saying does God really care? Is God listening to my prayers, I cant hear from God.. etc. And Even worse, is God real ?

As I was thinking about this particular topic this week, It came to my mind that nobody can really give us an answer but the bible. The bible is full of men and woman who experienced this kind of situations with God. Nearly all of them failed in most instance to trust in the living God ( Elijah,Peter, and so on.)

But despite of their disbelief God still revealed Himself to them in different ways,which reveals to us, despite of our weakness and doubts God still reaches out His hand towards us as long as we are honest with God about our doubts and anxious thoughts.

God likes people who are honest with Him, besides can you keep a secret from God? Nop... is the answer. So be honest and open your heart towards God and speak to Him as you would speak to a friend and remember there is not a time in day that He would not listen to you!

The more I am honest with God about my questions and doubts, the more I will know about God besides it is God's desire to reveal Himself to His own creation. At the same time it is a journey to discover God's answers for your questions, so be patient as well.

Key things, Honest & Patient- BE AN OPEN BOOK TO GOD.

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